Happy Labor Day, friends! Hopefully, you’ve spent today lounging around instead of laboring away, especially since it is the last unofficial day of summer. That’s right! For so many of you, today is likely the day before school resumes and vacations end. It’s likely the last day you’ll get to sleep in and spend more hours than you’d like to admit on the couch binge-watching your favorite series. And it’s likely the last day you’ll get to swim in the pool before it closes for the year. Today marks a lot of endings and quite a number of beginnings, namely the start of a new chapter in your life. Whether you’re going back to school or heading back to work, this next phase brings with it a host of excitement and maybe even anxiety. Just getting closer and closer to my own first day of graduate school, I can’t help but feel those same first day/next step jitters. I think it’s normal when you enter the unknown–a new space filled with some new people, new challenges, and new celebrations, all of which you can’t even fathom. It can be frustrating, uncomfortable, and maybe even scary. Maybe you’ll start to doubt yourself and your ability. Question whether or not you belong. Wonder whether or not you can handle the rigor, the professors, the peers, the colleagues, the boss, the work itself. I know I have.
Happy Monday, friends! You know those moments when something overwhelming or ridiculous happens, and people spout the phrase, “I can’t even”? Sure, there are the funny and outlandish times that elicit such a response–oftentimes said through tears of laughter– but then there are more serious things that happen and we respond in the same way. I’m guilty of it, and have actually started thinking a lot about the things I avoid because they’re difficult or stressful. What are my “can’t evens”? Sometimes it’s feeling like I can’t be bothered to work out any more than I already do because I’m not seeing the results I expect. Sometimes it’s feeling like I can’t sit and write a blog post because I don’t see the fruits of my labor. Sometimes it’s choosing not to speak to someone because past interactions have proved to be challenging. But when I choose to avoid engaging fully and believe that “I can’t even,” it actually does more harm than good. By disengaging, I’m missing out on really living and growing. What’s more is that it’s also a form of succumbing to pessimism and negativity.
So, what if instead of saying “I can’t even” we said (and believed), “I can”? How might we approach life and the circumstances it throws our way? Would we feel more empowered? More optimistic? More prepared to conquer? More willing to at least give it our best shot? When we shift our thinking and attitude and start to believe in ourselves and in our own power, incredibly amazing things happen. Maybe life doesn’t get easier, but you sure do get stronger, things feel lighter, and you are happier. I don’t know about you, but that sounds like a life worth living. Challenge yourself to “can even” this week, especially for those heading back to school and work, and see what positive changes come your way!
Happy Monday, friends! If you’re living in the States, then you know today is the day people have been talking about for years! It’s the first time since 1918 that we’ll experience a coast to coast total solar eclipse! Can you tell I’m super excited? Did the three consecutive exclamation marks give it away? Just as it was during last month’s new moon, today marks an incredibly magical moment, one that people (ahem, astrologists and astrology followers) believe has the power to bring about supernatural change. It’s a time when believers encourage us to set clear intentions or even capture the magic to use when we need it most. Whatever today means to you, whatever this rare opportunity may or may not bring, it also falls at a time when many students are heading back to school. I know it’s hard to believe summer has already come (or is quickly coming) to an end, and while you’ll have papers to write, equations to solve, and extracurriculars to tackle, this total solar eclipse could be just what you need. We’re nearly four months away from 2018. Have you accomplished any of your goals? What’s stopping you from reaching your dreams? Maybe it’s will-power? Maybe it’s focus? Maybe it’s direction? Maybe it’s just you standing in your own way? Whatever it is, perhaps this is the perfect time–a special time–to reevaluate your goals, ask the universe for guidance, articulate your dreams, and do what needs to be done for them to manifest. And if you get to sprinkle a little total eclipse magic over them beforehand, then that’s even better, right? So, here’s to a magical year– may we each discover our purpose, may we make this world a better and brighter place, and may we find true happiness, prosperity, and success. May it be so.
How will you celebrate the eclipse? What are you hoping will come to pass this year? Comment below!
Happy Monday, friends! It’s been about 72 hours since I touched down, and boy there is no place like home. I’ve slept comfortably, been eating right, and working out again (all of which you can follow on the @kermitsays Snapchat–shameless self-promotion). There’s honestly nothing better than falling back into a good routine to kick off a new week. Well, maybe one thing: reframing your mind and practicing positive thinking. I can’t reiterate this enough, but incorporating mindful meditation into my daily routine has seriously changed my thinking. It’s been so wonderful incorporating it into my life, and I’ve used it to not only center myself but also to reflect. In my nearly thirty years of living, I’ve had some great days and some not so great ones. I’ve had some incredible opportunities and some that flew right past me, and while I could allow those moments of defeat and denial to negatively affect me, I choose, instead, to look at things differently, more optimistically. Reminding myself that when one door closes, another door opens has helped me experience life more positively, openly, and fearlessly. Continue reading “Motivational Monday: Master The Door”
I have a friend who is so terrified of literally everything, she practically sits at home and hibernates. She’s even rarely willing to engage in serious conversations because she’s afraid of the possible outcome. Sometimes it gets to the point where she sabotages her own relationships. Now, if you’re thinking “this doesn’t sound like much of a life,” then you’re right! It doesn’t! The thing about fear is that it’s totally natural and understandable. We’re all afraid of something, it just looks different. Maybe you’re afraid of scary movies or heights. Maybe you’re afraid to say no. Maybe you’re afraid of rejection or taking risks. Maybe it’s all of the above, and it makes sense! Life can be a pretty scary place and situations may arise that cause us to pause and maybe even retreat, especially when we can’t anticipate the consequence, but when we allow fear to control us to the point where we’re paralyzed, well, that’s when we’ve got to put in some work and decide to either Forget Everything And Run or Face Everything And Rise.
Happy Monday, friends! It has been exactly 101 days since my last post, and while I never intended to take a break, particularly one this long, I need you to know that it was needed in a way I didn’t realize or expect. And it’s probably no surprise that my return is one day after the new moon–a point where we leave behind the old and make way for the new. I don’t think this period of the month or my life could have come at a more perfect time! Now, the break was hard, as are most disruptions and endings. But when we let go of that which does not serve us, when we leave behind the pain and suffering, we make room for peace, love, and joy. I’m feeling empowered and renewed this morning, and I’m so happy to be back, so here’s to this new moon and new beginnings. May goodness abound. And before I share all the goodness and positive changes I’ve encountered over the last three months, I feel like I need to explain my absence. In short, I no longer felt like myself.
During the spring of 2015, I was traveling in Brazil with some of my incredible students, when I started to consider a career change. At that point in my teaching, I’d only been in the game for about two years or so, but I soon realized that what I thought I loved about teaching wasn’t actually teaching, but it was hanging out with kids, getting to know them, listening to them, advising them, and helping them become their best selves. The problem was I wasn’t exactly sure what that would look like career wise. Surely I couldn’t get paid to just hang out with teenagers. That job doesn’t exist, right? Well after talking things over with a few of my closest friends, I learned that it kind of does exist in the form of becoming a counselor, a therapist, a clinical social worker, or a psychologist. But how could I do this? I’d just accepted another job at a new school. I couldn’t just leave that behind. I couldn’t back out. I couldn’t change my mind. It was too late. The thing about discovering and pursuing your purpose, however, is that it’s never too late to make it all come true.
Who else is in disbelief that it’s April?! I swear I was just celebrating the new year and creating my vision board. Like most people, I remember starting 2017 off super focused on reaching my goals, and while I’ve met many of them, a few still seem to be a touch out of reach not because I don’t want them, but because I just haven’t been disciplined enough to really go after them. One of these goals is to improve my physical health, which has honestly been what feels like a lifelong battle. But as my mom says, “nothing beats a failure but a try.” In other words, as often as I struggle with my weight and overall health, my persistence and will to keep trying is the only thing that keeps me from failing, at least completely. And because it’s a new month and a Monday, I thought this would be the perfect time to try try again.
Being honest with yourself is, to me, probably one of the most difficult yet important things one could ever do. When we meet certain people or encounter certain situations, we get a small feeling in the pit of our stomachs. That’s called intuition. Sometimes we listen to those instincts and other times we choose to ignore them altogether. Perhaps we get a bad vibe about someone we like but choose to dismiss those warning signs because we’re curious or lonely. Maybe it’s because we want to keep up appearances, and following our gut will change the way people perceive us. Maybe it will even change the way we see ourselves. Trusting our instincts oftentimes forces us to recognize what is so easily overlooked and challenges us to not only be honest with ourselves, but also to make some tough decisions that we think we might not be ready to make. The thing about listening to your gut, however, is that it’s always right and will never steer you wrong.
Happy Monday, friends. If you’re a student, you’ve probably had a few days to rest and relax before grades were publicized. If you’re a teacher, you’ve probably been grading and stressing over submitting grades by the looming deadline (forgive my absence, but I was doing the latter). Now, depending on how well you did this academic quarter, you might either spend the rest of your break basking in the sun or sulking in the cold. Regardless of where you find yourself on this spectrum, I think it’s safe to say that students oftentimes go into a bit of a crisis mode when midterm and quarterly/semester grades are due, and as much as you may feel the weight of your academic careers bearing heavily on your shoulders, I have to let you in on a little secret: grades do not define you.