I’m going to keep today’s post short and simple because the solution to what happened this weekend (and every day before and after) is just that: short and simple. It’s hard to leave a weekend like this feeling anything but anger and sadness. Surprised? Not so much. Events like what occurred in Charlottesville, Virginia happen on a daily basis, they’re just oftentimes not as explicit, violent, or demonstrated on such a mass scale. The thing about racism, white supremacy, xenophobia, religious intolerance, homophobia, and sexism–more specifically–is that they are insidious and they don’t have to be overt with the stereotypical symbols of hate, like burning crosses, angry mobs, and lynch ropes, to be painful and harmful. Acknowledge that. Acknowledge your own bias and the beliefs you have that cause you to judge and mistreat people who are different from you. Acknowledge your own privilege. Have conversations. Do the work and recognize that that work won’t be easy. Do it anyway because at the end of the day our job on this earth is to make life easier, happier, and better for everyone, not just some. The only way things are going to change is if you do something to change it. 200 + years is a long time to hate others. It’s also a long time to live in fear. Isn’t it time we actually do something about this? Love on someone today. Maybe it starts with love. Maybe that’s the first step in the right direction. Maybe we could at least try.
Happy Friday, friends! I don’t know about you, but I’m absolutely jumping for joy since we’ve finally made it to the end of another pretty long week. The week before Thanksgiving break and after elections has, at times, felt pretty unbearable, and yet here we are. Cheers to the weekend and another Friday Finding countdown!
I am in dire need of your advice!
There is a person who I cannot stand. What I mean is that every time I hear them breathe I wish they would stop, and every time they speak I can’t help but notice that what they’ve said was extremely stupid. All this in mind I can’t ignore this person, because my schedule makes it impossible to avoid regular interaction with them. What do I do! They have stolen my chocolate bar, and lied about not doing it! I know this seems like I am VERY much over-reacting, and I admit I am; However the hate that this small act has generated, has led me to unintentionally attack others, and is a testament to how much I loathe this person. Yes, I am over-reacting about a small thing, but I am sick of this person lying, and getting away with it.
In the past the person had told me extremely terrible things, which I know now to be lies, and currently she claims to never have told me the lies in the first place. Please please please, a penny for your advice (OR MORE). I know I must be the better person, but I can’t help but cringe with hatred whenever they walk in the room. I’m sure this feeling has miraculously become innate and there’s no way of changing it. I guess I’m asking in general, how can I teach myself to not hold grudges against her, (for both our sakes) so that I won’t have to live in anger all the time? Again please help.Thanks for time and consideration!
Grumpy in Greenfield.