On a recently unusually cold morning in Massachusettes, I started the day like I typically do, listening to Pandora Radio. Scrolling through my 99 stations (of which I honestly only listen to like, 10), I stumbled upon and selected 90s R&B. After suffering through a series of commercials, I heard a familiar beat with synthesizers, baseline, and a kick drum that made way for melodious vocals. I recognized it from the very beginning: TLC’s “What About Your Friends” (1992). Now, I was only four-years-old when this song first hit the airwaves, but having older sisters pretty much meant that this song was on constant rotation at the time. 25 years later, and I’m still dancing around the room every time it comes on. The only difference is, I’m now more aware of and see the value in the lyrics because having incredible friends who stand by you at your lowest low and highest high is one of the most significant and necessary elements for one’s overall well-being.
I am in dire need of your advice!
There is a person who I cannot stand. What I mean is that every time I hear them breathe I wish they would stop, and every time they speak I can’t help but notice that what they’ve said was extremely stupid. All this in mind I can’t ignore this person, because my schedule makes it impossible to avoid regular interaction with them. What do I do! They have stolen my chocolate bar, and lied about not doing it! I know this seems like I am VERY much over-reacting, and I admit I am; However the hate that this small act has generated, has led me to unintentionally attack others, and is a testament to how much I loathe this person. Yes, I am over-reacting about a small thing, but I am sick of this person lying, and getting away with it.
In the past the person had told me extremely terrible things, which I know now to be lies, and currently she claims to never have told me the lies in the first place. Please please please, a penny for your advice (OR MORE). I know I must be the better person, but I can’t help but cringe with hatred whenever they walk in the room. I’m sure this feeling has miraculously become innate and there’s no way of changing it. I guess I’m asking in general, how can I teach myself to not hold grudges against her, (for both our sakes) so that I won’t have to live in anger all the time? Again please help.Thanks for time and consideration!
Grumpy in Greenfield.
I love a good routine. It’s practical. It’s fool-proof. It’s predictable. Get up, wash your face, brush your teeth, shower, get dressed, head to school, go to practice, come home, watch TV, eat dinner, do homework, go to bed. Repeat. What’s not to love about knowing what you have to do, when you have to do it, and doing it every single day? While following a set schedule (almost) guarantees you won’t miss a commitment, it’ll also guarantee you’ll miss something else–the joy and excitement of living life!
We’re living in an era where capturing moments using our phones is more important than actually living these moments with whoever is beside us.
April and May are very busy times for teachers and students alike. It’s a time of developing and completing end-of-the-year assignments, finding the perfect prom and graduation outfits, and planning a well-deserved summer break. With so much left to do in your own lives, it often feels like there’s very little time for anything or anyone else. Friends and colleagues you’d see everyday now seem like ghosts of people you used to know. In the last few weeks, I’ve even heard stories of how busy husbands, busy wives, and even busy siblings don’t see or talk to each other for nearly a week…and they live together! Similarly, have you ever walked passed a friend and asked them how they’re doing, only to continue walking as they respond? Or vice versa? I can admit it’s happened recently more often than not, which makes me wonder: are we that busy that we can’t even greet one another and…talk?